***DISCLAIMER: Before I begin, I want to point out that I am not in anyway an authority on this subject. I am not married and will more than likely not be for a while. But these have been my thoughts in recent days.***
I’m sure if you’ve been raised in a church setting of some kind you’ve heard a phrase referring to saving sex until marriage and then going crazy in the bedroom once you are married.
I tend to disagree with that idea.
As Christians we are against lust. We see porn as a problem and premarital sex is a firm no, and don’t even think about mentioning homosexuality. But for some reason the message is sent that once you are married lust isn’t a struggle anymore. You will have a sexual partner so there will be no need for other sexual stimulation. Right? I have been told that is not so.
The danger then, in having an “anything goes” mentality is that lust can still rule the marital sex scene. You get married and suddenly sex is available. Marital sex is a pure, God-given pleasure, but I believe it is dangerous to remark about how anything can go because you can easily fall into the pattern that ends up with your spouse being treated as a sex toy, delivering you your pleasure at anytime with no boundaries. This scares me. This is no longer a pure act, but has now become a sin-infested sex romp.
These are my thoughts. I would love to hear your thoughts on the topic I have discussed. This is only a concept I have been thinking about for a day or two so it is obviously not polished.